Grief is a very difficult process. When one loses a loved one, i.e. spouse, parent, sibling and/or a very close friend, we all go through different emotions. From anger, sadness, lashing out, weeping uncontrollably, relief and/or guilt. With the recent loss of my own mother, I have gone thru several of these emotions. The biggest factor with managing grief is giving yourself time to process everything that has happened. Sometimes it may feel unfair or a blessing, however, it is important to give yourself space and alone time.
It is imperative to take the time you need to take care of yourself. Take walks within nature, get plenty of rest and most of all, eat a balanced diet. Drinking plenty of water is also very important so that you stay hydrated. Another way is to take the time to meditate and/or listen to soothing music. This will allow you time to reflect on the emotions that you are feeling and how to deal with them.
The first year preceding the death of your loved one will always be the hardest. Also, you come to terms with the fact that you cannot call that person to talk to them. However, be assured that your loved one is always with you in spirit. Sometimes they will send you little signs, such as you will find a feather on the ground, or a cardinal will appear within your view. These are small messages from your loved one that they are watching over you until you meet again.
If you feel that your loss is overwhelming to the point that you cannot move on, please talk to your health care provider. Consult with a therapist and/or with a Reiki Practitioner. Everyone grieves differently and moves on at a different pace. You will know if you are having difficulty with your grief, and if you are unsure, talk to a friend. Overall, time is the biggest factor. Allow yourself the time and patiences to grieve.